Instead of either option how about you get down/ back to safety and think about things. Life is not met to be easy as it puts us through h**l. Everyone knows that. There is no such thing as a perfect life. But think about how you can change your life instead of life changing you. Bring peace into your mind, go and walk and clear your mind. Get a job to get yourself busy and not think about the hurt. Go rock climbing or something just to keep you busy and focus on that then what's going through your life. Go be with friends. By getting out more and being active will brighten yourself and your day. Life is met to be a struggle but it's up to you how you will make the best of it. Be drown by all of this or climb to the top and prove to others of who you are and what you are capable of. Not sure if this is helpful but what I do know is that life is very short to everyone. Use it to the fullest.
Being transgender is a hard dession for anyone. Just being supportive and being there for her/him and letting them know no matter what they want to be you will still be there. There are a lot of transgender that get harrassed and it's digusting. If people are NOT happy as who they are let them make the dession of who they should be and know that there will be people who will stand by their side. Most of it is fear of the unknown. Just keep being her friend and helping her through the tough times and in the end it'll work out and it will be worth it. Hope this helps.