Watch this:
for subtracting: (this is only three digit but the concept is the same.)
http://www.khanacademy.org/math/arithmetic/addition-subtraction/sub_borrowing/v/basic-regrouping-or-borrowing-when-subtracting-three-digit-numbers
for adding: (this is also only three digit but the concept is the same.)
http://www.khanacademy.org/math/arithmetic/addition-subtraction/addition_carrying/v/carrying-when-adding-three-digit-numbers
for multiplying: (you will need a bigger lattice for your numbers)
http://www.khanacademy.org/math/arithmetic/multiplication-division/lattice_multiplication/v/lattice-multiplication
Sal Khan is very good at teaching maths.
From Sam, Herefordshire, England